Hhhmmm

Well, all I can say is “Hhhmmm”!  Today’s thoughts and activities have been all over the place  – some border on “strange” and some just plain left me speechless!  But…..a blogger never has a problem turning “speechless” into the written word!  hehehe  I’ll start with today and maybe I might even add in some other odd things or thoughts that have plagued me lately!  I’m going to bounce around and go out-of-order, because the first one – although it happened last, so far – was the one that beat it all….the perverbial “nail” in the coffin, so to speak!

My finger nails have been growing nicely, lately.  I tend to go in waves where they will be nice and long and strong for a while and grow like weeds…………then, they start to snap off and soon they are all stubbles, look like crap, and I can’t get them to grow back out for love nor money!  Anyway, my right hand nails have gotten pretty long (I’m not sure why, but that hand always seems to grow faster/better than the left hand) and I was concerned they would start to crack or break because I was starting to catch them on things, so I made an appt to get a manicure this morning.  I got there and asked Aprille to cut them back a little so they are the same length as the nails on the other hand, which were all a nice workable length  – look good, but don’t get in the way (except the index finger, which I broke over the holidays and was still little more than a stubble)!  She did and I left with nice, well manicured nails!  Happily, I went on to run a quick errand and then go to Cracker Barrel for lunch.  The chairs at the tables there are heavy and don’t slide well, so I reached down to pull the chair forward so I could sit closer to the table…………just as I pulled the seat forward, the chair decided it didn’t want to do that and my hand slipped off the seat………..and bent THREE nails on my right hand backwards – the three that were long and getting in the way a couple hours earlier, but were now the perfect working length and polished to perfection!  My heart sank as I pulled my hand up to assess the damage!  It looked like they survived!!!  I didn’t see any cracks or missing/hanging nails!!  And then, I saw it – the nail on the index finger had a crack that started on the side and went across to the center of the nail!  I pulled it back and sure enough, the nail was broke and had to be cut off!!!  To keep from catching and tearing it, I carefully pulled it off and went on with my lunch!  So, now I have BOTH index fingers snapped off to nothing!  Way to ruin a beautiful manicure!  But – the good news is that if that had happened BEFORE the manicure, I probably would have lost all three nails and I would have been even more upset!!!

My lips are a little chapped this morning – it started to be noticable yesterday.  I get chapped lips a lot in the winter and have to be careful what I put on them to avoid or repair chapped lips.  Chapstick and anything with menthol or other medicinal type ingredients all make my lips break out!  Not sure how Chapstick falls into that category, but it does.  So, I typically use Burt’s Bees in the little round tins or Vaseline Lip Therapy – they are about the only ones that work, yet don’t make my lips break out!  The reason I’m bringing this up isn’t to let you know I have chapped lips or to warn potential kissers……it is to tell you where my thoughts went when I sat here this morning wondering if I had any of either of the above mentioned products or if I had to run out and get some!  As I sat here, I remembered and started thinking about when I a kid.  I always had problems with chapped lips – worse than I do now!  But, I used to try to keep them moist in a different way — I would lick my lips way beyond the lip part and get them good and moist – then, I would put the palm of my hand over my mouth to hold in the moisture!!!!  My lips would get all red and chapped way up and down around and beyond my lips, so I would do it more to try to moisten them more!!!  It took me years to realize that what I was doing was CAUSING the problem, not solving it!!!  By getting the skin good and wet and holding it on there so it couldn’t dry, it was chapping it even worse and beyond the normal area!!! 

I didn’t want to get out of bed this morning.  I woke up several times, but rolled over and convinced the girls to let me go back to sleep for “just a little while longer”!  In one of those short snooze times, I had a dream that I had a hair appt this morning and that I went in saying that I needed more than just a trim and asking that it be cut shorter cause it was starting to stick out around my ears, stick out over my collar, look too thick on top, and look like a shaggy dog!!!  I woke up and realized my appt today was for a manicure, not a hair cut, but when I looked in the mirror, I realized my subconscious was right — I DO need a good shape up!!!  Luckily, I have an appt the week after next — I just hope I can hold off that long without starting to whack at it myself!!!

I was in a store the other day (not in Sanford – don’t worry) and said something to the clerk (I don’t even remember what) and she looked at me and said, “Yur from somewar up thar in the North, arn, ya?” – in a very slow, drawn out way – kid you not!  It wasn’t just a southern accent, it was just like something you hear on those shows that overly exaggerate the uneducated way some talk way back in the mountain woods!  So, I just smiled and said, “yes, I’m from Upstate New York originally, but I’ve lived here about 24 years now.”  She looked at me with wide open eyes and said in a shocked voice, “New York?  Really?  You don sound at all like dem New York people talk!  I kin understand you, I cain’t understand dem from New York at all!  WOW, I jus don know how ya’ll kin stand to live in dem big cities, like dat!”  I thought about explaining that I was from way upstate in Western NY and that we don’t typically have the same accent as those in NYC and that there is a whole big beautiful state outside “the city”, like I often do, but I decided to just smile, nod, take my change, and go on my merry way!  But, this, too, caused the thoughts to run rampant!  I thought for quite a while after that as I drove back home from the store…….I thought about how I lived the first 28 1/2 years of my life in NY and the second 24 1/2 years of my life in NC and that, although I don’t hear it, I apparently have developed a subtle mixture of accents.  Around here, I often get told that they can tell the minute I open my mouth that I am a Yankee.  But, when I go home, I often get told that I’ve been in the South too long cause I’ve picked up a little Southern Twang!  I think I’ll be fine, so long as I don’t start ending sentences with the word “AT” — such as, “Where you at?” (instead of “Where are you?”), “Where do you stay at?” (instead of “Where do you live?”) or “Where’d I leave my keys at?” (instead of “Where did I leave my keys” or “Where are my keys?”)!

The good thoughts of the day, though, came after the errand I ran between my manicure and lunch at Cracker Barrel!  I ran by The Painted Pedal to pick up a form and drop off a check for the deposit for the group cruise my Mom and I are going on in the spring!  A friend of Mom’s is going to go with us, now, too – so I had to get the information sheet we need to fill out for her.  Up until now, I’ve thought quite often about the cruise and how nice it will be to do one with Mom!  This will be my third cruise, but her first!  So, I want it to be a really special experience for her AND I want it to be a special memory that we can share!!  We had such a great time going to Vegas together and I want this to be right up there with it or exceed it in terms of amazing memories!!!  But, as of today, we have real money invested and it just seems more real — like it’s gonna happen, instead of just something we’re planning to do!!!  So, I sat through lunch thinking about being in Key West and pictured us in a tropical setting in Nassau — listening to calypso music and sipping drinks out of fruit shells with straws and umbrellas in them!  I could suddenly feel the warm sun on my face and hear the waves crashing on the shoreline!  DANG — I wanna go NOW!!!! 

OK — now it is time for a nap!!  The girls are already in on the bed, snoring — think I’ll go join them!!!

Day Fit For A King

Today – January 8th – was a day fit for a king!  Yep, the King, Elvis Presley, would have turned 75 years old today!  But that wasn’t the only notable thing that happened, or for that matter, didn’t happen today!  I have a lot of thoughts about today and the last few days rattling around in my head, so this is sure to be a good old “brain dump” so I can make room for the thoughts I hope to have over the weekend!  Weekends tend to generate a ton of great thoughts, so it would be nice to have some space available for them when they start pouring in!  So, here goes…….

Elvis — it is hard to believe he would have been (or is, depending on your belief) 75 years old today!  WOW — I grew up watching the young, handsome Elvis in movies like Viva Las Vegas and Kissing Cousins (my two favorites).   I remember watching the ’68 Come Back Special and falling in love forever with that skin-tight black leather outfit and the guy in it!  I was 12 years old — do you know what something like that does to a 12-year-old girl just starting to bud into her teens?  Yeah – it was a lasting vision that still melts my jammies to think about!  I would lay on my stomach on the floor inches from the TV watching anything that came on with Elvis in it and CRY my eyes out!!!  I played the Elvis songs loaded on my iPhone all day at work today — most set me to be-bopping, many put me in a mellow moment, and some brought tears to my eyes!  Ones that will ALWAYS bring tears to my eyes are “You Gave Me A Mountain”, “If I Can Dream”, “Are You Lonesome Tonight”, and “One Night” – my personal favorite Elvis song out of all Elvis songs!!! 

The thought of Elvis also makes me think of and remember my dear friend, David Whittier!  David was the lead singer of a local band called Defiance and a very close friend of mine.  David always made me think of Elvis – he sung some of his songs (“If I Can Dream”, “You Gave Me A Mountain”, and “Polk Salad Annie”, to name a few) and sounded very much like him.  When he sang anything, he would bring tears to my eyes!  So, David was always a trigger to get all emotional about Elvis.  David passed away tragically way too young from a horrible accident!  Now, when I hear Elvis, I think of my dear friend, David, and get the warm fuzzies all over!  I know that Elvis and David are jamming together in Heaven and they will forever link memories of each other in my heart!

It is no secret that I grew up and spent the first 1/2 of my life in Western New York in a small town about half way between Buffalo and Rochester just off of Lake Ontario in the Buffalo snow belt!  I have seen some pretty massive blizzards over the years — some that required earth movers to come in and cut through mountains of snow to clear roads.  Even though it snowed several months out of the year, we had very few snow days from school – if they closed school because of snow, we never would have gone to school in the winter months and some spring months!  So – I will never understand the panic that goes on in Sanford, NC when the weather man even mentions the word “snow”, even if it isn’t part of the forecast!  This week, the weather guys all predicted a potential for some light snow on Thursday night / Friday morning.  The forecast was for “a trace to 1/2 inch” possible in some areas, depending on where the cold front passes through.  So, by 2:00 on Thursday afternoon, most of the counties, including the one I live in, decided to put the schools all on a 2 hour delayed opening on Friday morning —- BEFORE they even knew IF we’d get any snow and if we did, how much and what impact it might have!  As it turned out, there was NO snow and NO ice Friday morning!  But, since they already announced the delayed opening, parents had to scramble around because they had kids that would be home alone for two hours in the morning if they didn’t either arrange for their care or be late for work!  All for nothing!  Jeez!!!  I will never understand the reaction to the threat of snow here!!  Someone on Facebook today made the joke that maybe the grocery stores and the weather people are in a partnership to boost sales of bread and milk — Kroger, Food Lion, etc. call the local TV stations and say “hey, we’ve got a bad surplus of bread and milk on our hands!  You think you might be able to create a snow scare so we get to sell out of our stock?”  The weather station kick into gear and say the word “snow” and BAM – all bread and milk across the state flies out of the grocery stores within minutes!! 

We’re working on some exciting things for CARA!  On Friday, February 5th, Cafe 121 is hosting a “First Friday” fundraising event benefiting CARA – 50% of the sales for dinner that evening will go directly to CARA!  We’re working to generate a lot of interest in going to Cafe 121 for dinner on the 5th!   Then, on Monday, February 22nd, we’re having our annual Bella Dinner at Bella Bistro!  An amazing 5 course meal with wine pairings and a champagne reception before the dinner starts!  Tickets are on sale for $75 each and sponsorship opportunities are available.  All proceeds benefit CARA’s Holly Fund to pay expenses for homeless animals with special needs.  If you’re interested in attending this event, please leave a comment here and I’ll get you the info you need to get tickets or be a sponsor!

I talked to a dear friend today that I don’t talk to as often as I would like to — just a matter of busy schedules, which is absolutely no excuse!!!  There are some people who I just plain need to commit to make time for keeping in touch with them more often!  She is one!  It was great talking to her and we plan to get together for brunch and a movie soon!

2010 is off to a kick-ass start!!  Hope it keeps up! 

Mixed Emotions

Life is back to normal after the holidays and extended time off from work.  You know – back to the old grind; same ole, same ole; the big let down; back to work to rest from vacation…….however you want to categorize the fact that vacation, holidays, and daily afternoon naps are over and everything is back to the way it was before!  This always creates a huge internal conflict in me and sends my emotions into a perfect portrayal of Sybil – the girl with the multiple personality disorder played beautifully by Sally Field in the 1976 film of the same name!  I’m all over the place with mixed emotions!

I traveled to my Mom’s for a week the day after Christmas until this past Saturday.  It was the second time in as many months that I was able to be home for a holiday – I also spent a week there over the Thanksgiving holiday!  I’m not positive, but I’m fairly certain that this was the first time in the 24 years that I have lived in NC that I went home for BOTH Thanksgiving and Christmas and it was wonderful!!!  I usually pick one or the other holiday or my Mom comes here one or the other holiday and there have been times over the years that we weren’t able to get together EITHER holiday (those years really sucked)!

So, why the roller coaster of emotions?  Here are the pros and cons lists: 

Pros – the trip:

  • Spend quality time with my family
  • Being in the homes I grew up in – my Mom’s home and my brother’s home (which used to be my Grandparent’s home)
  • Relaxation – no work, no responsibilities, afternoon naps
  • Great food
  • Lunch with dear friends from high school – Laura, Linda, and Chris
  • Got to see snow around the holidays
  • Familiar, comforting surroundings
  • Memories
  • Love – lots of love

Cons – the trip:

  • SNOW — yeah, it was on the pro list, but there was WAY too much of it, so it is here, too!!!!
  • Flight delays, crowded airports, enhanced security due to a terrorist attempt the day before I flew up
  • Missed my dogs a LOT
  • Gone over Thanksgiving and Christmas, so didn’t put up any inside decorations — kinda stifled the Christmas spirit

Pros – the return:

  • The girls were so excited to see me and I was so excited to see them!!!
  • Back to my routine, work, and normal way of doing things
  • Left the SNOW behind (do you get that the snow was a real issue this trip????)

Cons – the return:

  • Reestablished the distance between me and my family — major let down
  • No more daily afternoon naps
  • Back to work and responsibilities

So — now that I’m all settled back in to my normal life and routine, what am I looking forward to?   A planned cruise with my Mom to Key West and Nassau — gonna be GREAT!!!

Oh, and I just realized I didn’t do a resolution list for 2010, so here it is – I hope I do as good or better at keeping them this year as I did last year!!!

  • Seek out more opportunities to be with family and hometown friends!  Not as easy as it sounds……
  • Continue to remind myself to not get all excited and wrapped up in things I have little or no control over.  I did a decent job of this last year, but can still use some improvement!  AND – I’m thinking it will likely be even more important this year!  The stress of worrying about things that are out of my control is just plain NOT worth it!  Life’s too short and I just need to keep in mind that everything happens for a reason and make the most out of whatever gets dished out to me and move on to the next adventure!  It is a much healthier outlook!  I resolve to do a better job of maintaining this attitude in all potentially stressful situations!
  • Put my health, personal well-being, and inner happiness FIRST and foremost!  This sorta goes with the first one, but takes it just a little further! 
  • Lose weight — yeah, the standard resolution of probably 80-90% of all Americans — why should I be any different?
  • Renew my love of cooking — this was on last year’s and I didn’t really do much towards it!  So, I’m going to try to be more serious about it this year!  I used to love to cook and was a pretty good cook!  I’ve gotten so far out of the habit that I tend to forget how to make the simplest of dishes!  I’d love to learn some more advanced skills and get back into entertaining and cooking for others!  Let’s see how this one goes this year!
  • Work on drastically reducing or eliminating my debt!

I think that’s quite enough to tackle for now!

Here’s to the joys of being on vacations and traveling, getting back into my routines, looking forward to exciting plans for the future, and resolutions that are challenging yet achievable with a little effort and conviction!  Life is good — enjoy it while you can!!! 

Reality TV – Really?

I wanna know whose reality Reality TV is based on?  I don’t know where they get some of these people – I don’t know anyone who acts the way most on Reality TV shows act or, if they do, I doubt they’d do it on national TV in front of millions of people!  As I flip channels, I realize that the art of writing an entertaining TV drama or situation comedy has just about died!  Yeah, there are some good shows out there, but I wonder what exactly brought about the change in what we call entertainment.

Case in point – how many “Real Housewives” from anywhere actually talk, act, and seem proud to be the way the ones on TV do?  I have never actually watched an episode of any of the “Real Housewives” shows – the clips on the ads are enough to tell me there isn’t anything “Real” about it!

OK – I admit, I do get into some of the Reality TV shows…..I’m not totally anti-Reality TV!  I like ones that are contest oriented or I can learn something from – Top Chef, Project Runway, Dancing With The Stars, Iron Chef America, and a few others.   I also occasionally watch Tabitha’s Salon Takeover and Say Yes To The Dress just for the heck of it!  

When I was a child, I used to think that shows like Leave It To Beaver and Ozzie and Harriett were REAL – that someone secretly followed them around with a camera and filmed everything they do and we got to watch them……AND…..that someone was secretly following me and my family around with a camera filming everything WE did and somewhere else in the world someone got to watch US!  I used to play act so that my life would be more interesting to those who were watching me from somewhere across the globe!  It never occurred to me to act like an idiot for their entertainment – quite the contrary – I tried to behave like an adult so they would think I was older and more sophisticated than I really was!

Do we really care what Steven Seagal, the Kardashians, the Osbournes, Jon and Kate, the housewives, or any of the others like them are doing?  Do we really think it is “real” and not staged?  (after all, even I staged MY reality show when I was younger)

Can you imagine what the rest of the world must think of us when they watch these shows?  After all, we claim them to be “Reality TV” and most people on these types of shows act stupid, whore-ish, mad, abusive, brash, or just plain idiotic — they must think that is the way a typical American acts!  What must they think of us?  I, for one, would much prefer they think we are more like Ozzie and Harriett than a Real Housewife!

Now — one of the newest shows is Hoarders — yes, I know there are people who live like that – I have known a few personally (not quite that bad, mind you)!  But, why in the world would they want to bring TV cameras into their home and show their filth to the world?  I have not actually seen one of these episodes, either, because the clips have been enough to turn my stomach!  I get embarrassed when someone stops in and I have dishes in the sink and haven’t vacuumed the dog hair up in a day or two – and I’d panic if they actually opened that closet or two that I cram everything into for storage!  I would think being one of those on that show would be devastating!

I think it is just the “get on the bandwagon” theory — like most TV seasons tend to be:  one cop, law, or medical show gets high ratings and the next season there are 2 or 3 more like them to try to steal the ratings from them!  One Reality TV show got a lot of attention and they started popping up all over the place.  I want to know when the old-fashioned TV shows will come back — where are all the creators and writers that can actually be creative enough to come up with a fictional story line and write some dialogue and get us interested in the characters?  There are some out there, but we need more — we need to get off the “Reality” bandwagon and back on the “Fictional” bandwagon!

Closing Out A Decade

In just a few short hours, a year will end….and so will a decade!  To say that this year has flown by would be an understatement.   An old saying tells us that the older we get, the faster the time flies by.  I believe it!  Recent years feel like I wake up on New Year’s morning, blink, and it is suddenly New Year’s Eve of a new year!

New Year’s Eve is a day of reflection — closing out and saying goodbye to a year past and celebrating the beginning of a year to come.  Going through a symbolic closure is important for our ability to successfully move on.  So, in keeping with the tradition of reflecting on the past, here are some of the key events that defined the past year and decade for me:

2009:

  • Made it up to Mom’s three times and she made it down to my home twice!
  • My brother and his wife made their first trip to my home.
  • Made it to Hawaii!!!
  • Finally got all the white walls in my house painted some of the most beautiful colors and it looks GREAT!
  • Joined the Carolina Animal Rescue and Adoption (CARA) board.
  • Reconnected with several of my old high school friends and attended a great reunion get together with a bunch of them!
  • The Girls stopped eating and tearing up everything in sight!

The movies I liked the MOST in 2009:

  • It’s Complicated
  • The Blind Side
  • Up
  • Taken
  • Hotel for Dogs

The movies I disliked the MOST in 2009:

  • The Box
  • The Time Traveler’s Wife
  • The Last House of the Left

And now for the things that defined the past decade for me:

  • Watch the turn of a new century
  • Earned my Master’s Degree
  • Bought my house
  • Took on a new role at work
  • Lost my precious Puddles after about 16 years of companionship
  • Traveled all the way to Arizona just to be with a friend of about 45+ years on her 50th birthday party
  • Enjoyed a wonderful trip to Las Vegas with Mom – a first for both of us!
  • Was shocked and saddened by the events of 9/11 and the failing economy
  • Experienced some health issues – some pretty serious – and learned to live with them and make life style accommodations
  • Started this blog

So, how did I do on my 2009 Resolutions?

Not bad!!!  I went back to read the post I wrote on January 1st and think I honored the promises I made to myself pretty closely! 

The first one was to “take care of me first and stop worrying about things I have little or no control over” – I took better control of my health, maintained and renewed a membership at Natural Balance Medical Spa for monthly pampering appointments, and consistently stopped to remind myself to not get so stressed when things were out of my control.  I think I did a decent job of this — but I can still use some improvement there, so will continue to work on it!

The second one was to paint the interior walls in my house – DONE!!!

The third wasn’t as successful as I had hoped — it was to go out to eat less and cook more!  The intent was to let me focus on renewing my love of cooking and polish an old skill that I was good at and lost some of!  Well, I did do a fair amount of home cooking and even upgraded my kitchen appliances to help!  But, I have to be honest and say that it wasn’t as successful as I intended it to be —- so, I think this one needs to go back on the list to work on this year!

All in all, I think the year and the decade was good to me — some low points, but a lot of high points — I’ll have to give some thought to what I want to resolve to work on this year and put them in another post. 

For now, I am thankful to be able to ring in the New Year with my Mom and do it with good health and happiness for both of us!  Life is good!

Movie Review – It’s Complicated

Christmas Day at the movies — a great tradition that I enjoy very much!  I watch for what movies will be released on Christmas Day and pretty much decide which one I plan to see long before the day gets here!  This year, I was torn between two – “It’s Complicated” and “Nine”.  I couldn’t decide, so I settled for going to BOTH!!!  Then, I looked at the show times to see what I needed to do to juggle them and was very disappointed to find out that “Nine” didn’t come to Sanford!  I would have to go to Cary to see it!  I toyed with the idea of going to Cary, but decided that I didn’t want to devote the entire day to movies, so made the choice to only see “It’s Complicated” in Sanford.

The movie stars Meryl Streep (Jane), Alec Baldwin (Jake), and Steve Martin (Adam).  Jane and Jake are divorced and have three grown children.  The divorce, caused by Jake cheating on Jane with a much younger girl,  resulted in 10 years of bitterness and the inability for them to be in the same room with each other.  During a weekend trip to see their son graduate in NYC, they are thrown into a situation where they have dinner, get drunk, and  end up in bed with each other!  While they proceed with an affair (by the way – Jake is still married to the younger woman he cheated on his wife with), Jane meets Adam, an architect that is working on an addition on her home.  hilarity ensues!!!  Scene after scene cracked me up — it was so funny and enjoyable! 

The story was cute, the characters were perfect, and it was such fun to watch!  The audience seemed to agree with me – they were laughing out loud, clapping, and gasping throughout the entire film!  It was a thoroughly entertaining afternoon!

I rate this one an A and highly recommend it for anyone who just wants to be entertained and laugh!

Merry Christmas!

Wishing You a Very Merry Christmas!

From Kim, Katie, Megan, and Amy

Happy Everything To You!

I don’t necessarily get offended when I hear someone say “Happy Holidays” – it depends on the reason and context the greeting is used.  “Happy Holidays” is an expression that has been around for a long, long time – it isn’t new.  I remember seeing Christmas cards with that greeting, as well as “Tis the Season”, when I was a child (we won’t talk about how long ago that was, but it was definitely before the world started all this “politically correct” crap).

The phrase is intended to be a broad greeting to wish happiness for someone over the course of the holiday season stretching from Thanksgiving to New Year’s Day.  When you use it in that context, I see nothing wrong with it – especially now that we’ve come to be more sensitive to those from other cultures and beliefs. 

What I don’t agree with is that it has turned into a mandate in some ways – store clerks not allowed to give a specific greeting or people being vocally offended when someone else doesn’t realize they may not celebrate a particular holiday.  Since when is a friendly greeting of any kind offensive – the specific or more general kind?  And I don’t see those same stores that mandate no “Merry Christmas” greeting allowed stopping the sale of Christmas trees or other Christmas specific items that boost their sales – can’t have it both ways, guys!

No one can take “Christ” out of “Christmas” for YOU, if that is what is in your heart and your belief!  What takes “Christ” out of “Christmas” in general are those who focus solely on the Santa and gifts part of the holiday – not the use of a friendly greeting of “Happy Holidays”.

I feel using “Happy Holidays” is appropriate when you are truly wishing someone a happy holiday “season” and encompassing all the holidays.  Bringing joy and well wishes over the season is a good thing and should result in smiles and returned well wishes.  It is also appropriate when you are greeting a stranger that you don’t know what their beliefs are – you can’t always tell by looking at someone what religion or culture they celebrate, so to be sensitive of that is being courteous to our fellow human beings, not ignoring any one holiday or forgetting the “reason for the season” – each holiday has it’s own “reason”!

However, if you are talking about a specific holiday or if you know the individual’s beliefs, you really should be more specific and honor those beliefs.  If you are talking about Christmas, say Merry Christmas.  If you are talking about Thanksgiving, say Happy Thanksgiving.  If you are talking about Hanukkah, say Happy Hanukkah.  If you are talking about Kwanzaa, say Happy Kwanzaa.  And on with any other holidays I may not be aware of or forgetting at this moment!  Honor each and every holiday as appropriate to the occasion and the person you are greeting.  Afterall – a greeting is more for the person you are offering it to and should be catered to them, not you.  

BUT — I still say that a friendly greeting of any kind can’t possibly be offensive if it is genuine, from the heart, and not offered out of sarcasm.  If someone greets me with “Happy Hanukkah” or “Happy Holidays” or whatever friendly greeting I receive, I smile and respond with “Thank you, same to you.” and depending on whether or not I know the person, I may also add “and Merry Christmas to you.”!  And I certainly don’t mean it sarcastically in the sense that I want them to know I think they are taking the “Christ” out of “Christmas” or that I am offended that they chose to honor their holiday instead of mine!  That is their right, same as it is mine to honor my holiday!  I am touched and happy to receive a friendly greeting of any kind and am saddened when my return friendly greeting results in someone taking offense by it.  But, if a person wants me to join them in their joy or is just unaware that I may honor a different holiday than they do, why would I be offended by that? 

So, come on, people — let’s just be happy about the wonders of the entire season — honor and hold dear the specific holidays we each celebrate in our own way — and stop being offended if someone chooses to greet us differently than we greet others.  Life’s too short and precious to spend it being offended by someone wanting to offer a friendly invitation to celebrate something – whatever that may be!

May everyone reading this find true joy in your lives!

For those honoring the same holiday that I do – the glorious birth of Christ:

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

For those honoring a different holiday:

I wish you much happiness on whatever holiday you honor!

Movie Review – Did You Hear About The Morgans?

Sunday was a lazy day, but I did take time to go to Cafe 121 for brunch and take in a movie.  I decided on “Did You Hear About The Morgans?”, the new Sarah Jessica Parker and Hugh Grant film.  The critics have been slamming it and the Yahoo users were mixed – they either loved it or hated it for an average rating of C+.  From the previews I figured I’d probably be somewhere in between – it looked like a cute story, but probably wasn’t one I’d end up raving about.  I was right…..it was OK – enjoyable, funny at times, cute story, but overall not great!

The story is about the Paul and Meryl Morgan (Grant and Parker) who are having marital problems (Paul cheated on Meryl).  After going to dinner to try to talk things out, they witness a murder and the killer sees them.  This results in them becoming the key witnesses in a major crime ring, so the feds put them in the witness protection program.  The Morgans – life long NYC residents who, to quote Meryl, “I don’t even like Connecticut!” – are thrust into seclusion in Ray, Wyoming – the ultimate definition of “the middle of nowhere”!   It is funny to watch them try to cope with life in the ruralest of rural places, the people who live there, and the relationships they form – including their own.

The story is cute and caused me and a couple others in the audience to chuckle out loud a few times.  What I enjoyed most was seeing Sam Elliott, who played the Federal Marshall they are sent to stay with in Wyoming.  I love Sam Elliott – his voice totally melts me through – and I miss seeing him in films!  Other notable characters are played by Mary Steenburgen (Sam Elliott’s wife) and Wilford Brimley (who played the crusty owner of a local diner).

Overall, I did enjoy the movie, but it won’t be memorable.  I rate it a B- (the Sam Elliott factor kept it out of the high Cs) and recommend it for a quiet evening when it comes out on DVD.

Pet Peeve of the day

I am renewing a pet peeve I posted about in January that still tends to irritate me whenever I encounter it….what gives with this?  Am I missing something here?  This baffles me to no end!!!  Come on people – unless you have a Mommie that follows you around and does it for you, take care of your own business!!!

The source of my irritation involves those sanitary paper liners for public restrooms.  The intended use of these is a good thing and many people use them to help maintain some level of sanitation in public restrooms.  What bothers me are the people who use them and then just get up and leave the stall without disposing of the liner – they just leave it on the seat for the next person to deal with.  Come on — are they THAT paranoid of germs that they can’t carefully touch the outer edges of a paper liner that they didn’t mind touching when they put it in place and just push it into the toilet?  It’s not like they have to crumple it up in their hands to toss it in a trash receptacle.  They use the same hands to use toilet paper before they get up – if you get my drift (at least I would hope they do).   They are even going to go right out and wash their hands (again, at least I would hope they do).  AND – it was THEIR butt that was on the liner!!   DUH!!!  It is totally selfish and disrespectful to leave it for the next person or someone responsible for cleaning the restroom to take care of — we certainly don’t want to touch something they had their butt on – especially if they aren’t willing to do so!!!